Dating is a dance. Take your time and genuinely connect with someone who shares your values, passions, and missions.
According to Dr. Harville and Dr. Helen Hunt of Imago Relationship Therapy, romantic love is the initial bond that glues incompatible people together to do what needs to be done to heal each other. It is supposed to end.
Conflict is bound to happen. It is natural.
Old pains are reactivated as we realize that our significant other cannot or will not love and care for us the way we wanted them to. Our dreams are shattered and we feel disconnected. Then we become angry, frustrated, resentful, then we split up or settle in an uneasy truce resenting each other instead of asking for what we need from each other.
Imago therapy reminds us that when we fall in love, our old brain is telling us that we’ve found someone with whom we can complete our unfinished childhood business.
Now that you are aware – it is key to change everything.
Conscious love is reconnecting through talking, communicating with our partners and asking for what we need to heal.
It is not easy but it works!
Conscious love is not for the faint of heart, for it requires learning effective coping skills than crying, resentment, anger or withdrawal.
You are already with your dream partner, but at the moment, he or she is in disguise – and like you, in pain.
A conscious love or marriage or partnership itself is the therapy you need to restore your sense of aliveness and connectivity and set you in the path of real love.
- from Harville & Helen’s book, “Getting The Love You Want”